Ah, Halloween! Such a fun time when adults and children have the chance to be someone or something else! Firefighter, super hero, witch or a ghost are just a few fun costumes you might see.
Last Halloween, I got the opportunity to wear a couple’s costume with my husband. We decided to go to a gala for a charity dressed in our costume. The gala was on the Saturday before Halloween and our attire was perfect for the gala. It was a masquerade ball and everyone would be dressed in ball gowns and suits and ties.
I was on the planning committee and at our last meeting, I asked the team if they would mind if instead of shopping for a gown, I came in a black suit, tie, and hat and my husband would do the same. Together we look like the Blues Brothers and they could use us to sell raffle tickets. I would donate the cost of buying a gown to the charity.
The team laughed and agreed that would work. My friend Cynthia was on the planning committee and let me borrow her son’s black suit jacket and her husband’s hat.
The night of the gala something happened that surprised me…
Getting ready for the gala was a breeze! Dressing as a man, I didn’t need to wear make-up, I hopped out of the shower and put my wet hair into a bun under my hat and was ready in about 5 minutes!
I drove to the gala an hour and a half earlier than my husband so I could help set up. I bragged to some of the committee members that it was great dressing up as a guy because I could run around in comfortable shoes instead of heels.
Then a few minutes before the gala started, something surprised me.
I went up to the table where we had coffee and got two cups. The ladies from Starbucks said, “We can help you with that!” They were so kind to me. I said, I need to check if my friend Cynthia wants sugar in hers. I walked over to Cynthia who was working a few feet away at the registration table and asked her how she takes her coffee.
When I returned to the coffee table, the Starbucks ladies poured my two cups and added the cream and sugar for me. They seemed extra gentle and kind. I gave Cynthia her cup and when I turned around my husband showed up. I gave him a big hug! Then the Starbuck’s ladies let out a giggle. I went over to them and they told me they didn’t realize I was in costume until they saw my husband.
The gala was wonderful and when I went to bed that night, before I fell asleep, I started thinking about what happened when I got the coffee. How I was lucky that the Starbucks ladies were kind to me because some people who might have thought I was transgender or lesbian might have not been so kind.
I realized, too, that I ran around so much that evening, I didn’t get a chance to use the bathroom. What would have happened if I did? I was dressed as a Blues Brother…and quite convincingly…how awkward it would have felt to be in either bathroom.
Sometimes it truly takes walking in someone else’s shoes to have empathy. It makes my heart sad that sometimes people, who say they are Christians, aren’t kind to all people. Jesus came to bring good news -- we have a loving God who loves EVERYONE.
Above is a short video created by Thomas Allen with footage for the evening, "Gala Night for StreetlightUSA" It was a beautiful evening that raised money for children who need a healing place to stay after being rescued from sex trafficking. If you would like to help them, go to StreetlightUSA.